2019年8月4日星期日

A Refresher of Every Sex Scene from 'Fifty Shades Darker'

imageFifty Shades Darker hits theaters on February 10, just in time for Valentine's Day. Of course, fans of the books (and fans of ironically-seeing-the-movies-even-though-they're-not-really-your-thing) know what to expect: lots of sexy times between the mysterious and mercurial Christian Grey and the sweetly wide-eyed Anastasia Steele. Here's a quick refresher on every sexy encounter these two shared in the book so you know what to expect in the movie.
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When we last left Christian and Anastasia, they were broken up. You remember: he got a little too real with the spanking and she peaced. After an excruciating five days apart, they reunite in Fifty Shades Darker, and their first time back together is one of the hottest moments in the book. The scene is all about Ana taking control and telling Christian exactly what she wants, for a change. Amen to that.
"'My jeans and panties,' I murmur, and he smiles against my throat before he drops to his knees in front of me. Oh, I feel so powerful. Hooking his thumbs into my jeans, he gently pulls them and my panties down my legs. I step out of my pumps and my clothes so that I'm left wearing only my bra. He stops and looks up at me expectantly, but he doesn't get up.
'What now, Anastasia?'
'Kiss me,' I whisper.
'Where?'
'You know where.'"
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Another memorable moment in Darker is when Christian takes his promise to be sweeter in the bedroom literally, and involves vanilla ice cream in his and Ana's "vanilla" relationship.
"I pull against my restraints and the bed creaks ominously, but I don't care—I'm burning with desire, it's consuming me. He takes another spoonful and lets the ice cream dribble onto my breasts. Then with the back of the spoon, he spreads it over each breast and nipple.
Oh...it's cold. Each nipple peaks and hardens beneath the cool of the vanilla.
'Cold?' Christian asks softly, and bends to lick and suckle all the ice cream off me once more, his mouth hot compared to the cool of the ice."
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After Ana draws some no-touching zone boundaries on Christian in lipstick, they do what they do best—this time with Ana on top.
"He guides me, and hesitantly I ease myself down onto him. He closes his eyes and flexes his hips to meet me, filling me, stretching me, his mouth forming a perfect O as he exhales.
Oh, that feels so good—possessing him, possessing me.
He holds my hands, and I don't know if it's to steady me or keep me from touching him, even though I have my road map.
'You feel so good,' he murmurs."
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Before the big masquerade party, Christian inserts those tiny silver balls Ana likes so much inside her—because that seems like a good idea when going to a black tie fundraiser and meeting your BF's family.
"He grins then shakes his head, admonishing me, so I let go. He nods, and I bend down and grasp the sides of the chair. He moves my panties to one side and very slowly slides a finger into me, circling leisurely, so I feel him, on all sides. I can't help the moan that escapes from my lips.
He withdraws his finger briefly and with tender care, inserts the balls one at a time, pushing them deep inside me. Once they are in position, he smoothes my panties back into place and kisses my backside. Running his hands up each of my legs from ankle to thigh, he gently kisses the top of each thigh where my hold-ups finish."
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During the charity ball, Christian and Anastasia realize they can't last another moment without ravishing each other's bodies, so they sneak off to his childhood bedroom to do the deed (as you do). They also up the kink factor, with Christian tying Ana up and spanking her.
"'That's right, baby,' he murmurs appreciatively. He unties my wrists, keeping his fingers inside me as I lie panting and spent over him.
'I've not finished with you yet, Anastasia,' he says, and shifts without removing his fingers. He eases my knees on to the floor so that now I'm leaning over the bed. He kneels on the floor behind me and undoes his zipper. He slides his fingers out of me, and I hear the familiar tear of a foil packet. 'Open your legs,' he growls and I comply. He strokes my behind and eases into me."
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This one is pretty straightforward: Ana wants sex, so she initiates sex.
"'Please, Christian—faster,' I murmur, wanting more, now.
'Oh no, baby. I need this slow.' He kisses me sweetly, gently biting my lower lip and absorbing my soft moans.
I move my hands into his hair and surrender myself to his rhythm as slowly and surely my body climbs higher, and higher, and plateaus, then falls hard and fast as I come around him."
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During their deliriously good weekend together, Ana and Christian go sailing and, while anchored in a "small, secluded cove," they have boat sex. Christian makes Ana strip for him, and then they make such sweet love that Ana professes her IRL love for him during the act.
"I'm cocooned by him, as he loves me, slowly moving in and out, savoring me. I touch him—sticking to the boundaries—his arms, his hair, his lower back, his beautiful behind—and my breathing accelerates as his steady rhythm pushes me higher and higher. He's kissing my mouth, my chin, my jaw, then nibbling my ear. I can hear his staccato breaths with each gentle thrust of his body.
My body starts to quiver. Oh... This feeling that I now know so well... I am close...Oh...
'That's right, baby... give it up for me... Please... Ana,' he murmurs, and his words are my undoing."
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Ana starts to feel adventurous, and wants to try the playroom again. Christian is still worried it's too soon, so they settle things the old fashioned way, with a game of pool. Christian ends up winning and they have sex on the pool table.
"Slowly he sinks into me, filling me. I hear his groan of pure pleasure, and it stirs my soul. He grasps my hips firmly, eases out of me again, and this time slams back into me, causing me to cry out. He stills for a moment.
'Again?' he asks softly.
'Yes...I'm fine. Lose yourself...take me with you,' I murmur breathlessly."
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We all know that Christian and Anastasia have a thing about elevators, so this isn't too surprising.
"'You're mine, Anastasia,' he murmurs against my throat.
'Yes. Yours. When will you accept that?' I pant. He groans and starts to move, really move. And I surrender myself to his relentless rhythm, savoring each push and pull, his ragged breathing, his need for me reflecting mine.
It makes me feel powerful, strong, desired and loved—loved by this captivating, complicated man, whom I love in return with all my heart. He pushes harder and harder, his breathing ragged, losing himself in me as I lose myself in him."
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When Christian can't sleep, he plays piano. And when Christian and Ana can't sleep, they sometimes play on a piano, which is exactly what happens the time Ana wakes up and goes looking for Christian.
"Oh boy. I know what he's going to do, and the anticipation...I groan loudly as he kisses the inside of my knee, then kisses, and sucks, and nips his way higher up my leg to my thigh. The soft satin of my nightgown rises higher, skimming over my sensitized skin, as he pushes the fabric. I flex my feet and the chords sound again. Closing my eyes, I surrender myself to him as his mouth reaches the apex of my thighs."
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Of course, Ana can't completely avoid touching Christian during sex, but she's usually not allowed to touch the aptly-named "no touch zone." That said, after awaking from a nightmare about Ana leaving him, Christian asks her to touch him. It's about as vulnerable as we see him get.
"'Ana, touch me... please.'
Oh. I lean forward and steady myself with my hands on his chest. And he calls out, his cry almost a sob, and he thrusts deep inside me.
'Ahh,' I whimper and run my fingernails gently over his chest, through the hair there, and he groans loudly and twists abruptly so I am once more beneath him.
'Enough.' He moans. 'No more, please.' And it's a heartfelt plea."
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Again, Ana tries to get Christian to take her back into the playroom, but again he insists on waiting. He does, however, bring one of the toys out of the playroom and into the bedroom—a spreader bar.
"He begins a slow and sensual assault, his tongue swirling around and around while his fingers move inside me. Because I can't close my legs, or move, it's intense, really intense. My back arches as I try to absorb the sensations.
'Oh, Christian,' I cry.
'I know, baby,' he whispers, and to ease up on me, he blows softly on the most sensitive part of my body."
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In another of their classic elevator hookups, Christian publicly fingers Ana in a crowded elevator—not that they get caught, of course.
"Oh my. I gape at the people in front of us, staring at the backs of their heads. They have no idea what we're up to. Wrapping his free arm around my waist, Christian pulls me to him, holding me in place as his fingers explore. Holy fucking shit... in here? The elevator travels smoothly down, stopping at the fifty-third floor to let some more people on, but I am not paying attention. I am focused on every little move his fingers make. Circling around... now moving forward, questing, as we shuffle back."
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Since previous elevator tryst leaves something to be desired, Ana and Christian finish things up in the elevator at his place.
"'Do you know how much you turn me on?'
'What?' I pant. 'No...I...'
'Well, you do,' he mutters, 'all the time.' He grabs the foil packet from my hands. Oh, this is so quick, but after all his tantalizing teasing, I want him badly—right now. He gazes down at me as he rolls on the condom, then puts his hands under my thighs, spreading my legs wider."
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After Christian's helicopter disappearance scare, he returns home for some shower sex with his lady, but they can't even take the time to get undressed. So naturally, they sexily undress each other in the shower. As you do.
"I want to wash all of you,' I whisper. He smiles that lopsided smile and lifts his hands in a gesture that says 'I'm all yours, baby.' I grin; it feels like Christmas. I make short work of his zipper, and soon his pants and boxers join the rest of our clothing. I stand and reach for the body wash and the freshwater sponge.
'Looks like you're pleased to see me,' I murmur dryly."
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Ana goes back into the playroom with Christian for his birthday, and their sex is complete with restraints, vibrators, and assplay (oh my!).
"'Hush, feel it, Ana. Don't be afraid.' His hands are now on my waist, holding me, but I can't concentrate on his hands, what's inside me, and the clamps, too. My body is building, building to an explosion—with the relentless vibrations and the sweet, sweet torture of my nipples. Holy hell. It will be too intense. His hands move from my hips, down and around, slick and oiled, touching, feeling, kneading my skin—kneading my behind."

2019年8月2日星期五

9 Things That Happen to Everyone During Sex

Sex. We all have it (some more regularly than others), and we all have ideas of what it should be: Erotic. Sensual. Um, sexy? In general, we imagine getting down completely devoid of smells and sounds and awkward moments. But the thing is—it isn't. Because behind closed doors, there are moments of sex that are funny, and weird, and, well, downright awkward. AND THAT'S OKAY.
Here, common and embarrassing and weird things that happen during sex—and how to shake them off. (First tip: keep going.)
Uh, what's that noise?
Queefing. Even the word itself makes us want to laugh. Look, if you queef (when trapped air leaves your vagina and makes a noise), just take comfort in the fact that you're doing sex right. Thrusting and changing positions can all lead to the dreaded queef, and those are two damn good things.
The wet spot.
You know the one. Afterwards, on the sheets? That you both kind of roll away from and pretend isn't there? Yeah it's there. It's totally there.
Since when did sex become a sport?
Knocking boots is one thing—knocking your head is quite another. And definitely an issue. See also: bruised knees, bumped teeth, strained hammies...you get the gist.
Being on completely separate pages when it comes to switching positions...
"Oh, you meant...okay..."
It's like the desert down there.
You're raring to go...until you realize you're not. We've all been there. Just don't try to have sex without some type of lubrication. (Seriously, that shit hurts.)
What the hell did I just say?
It's cool if him asking you to "talk dirty" means you can't immediately start saying things like you're Giada de Laurentiis saying "mozzarella." WE CAN'T BE GOOD AT ALL THE THINGS.
Did I seriously just pee?
Yep, you can pee during sex. GOOD JOB, BODY. If you have a sensitive bladder, you may find it happens when a penis (or other sexual accoutrements...) enter your vagina. Also possible if you're having an extremely intense orgasm. (Thanks, muscle contractions.) So what can you do about it? Pee. You know, before sex.
Ex on the brain.
We all do it! Okay?! Okay! #ItAintPersonal
Making a grocery list when he goes down on you...
It's fine, it's called multitasking. (But take a moment to enjoy, mkay?)

A Week in the Life of an Open Marriage

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Lola B., 35, is a queer sex educator in New York City, who hosts a monthly sex-related show and works at sex toy store in Brooklyn. She's been married to her husband Evan* for 9-and-a-half years, and they've been together a total of 15. They'd been monogamous until 10 years ago, when Lola had an affair and fell in love with the other person, which made her realize she was interested in polyamory. She had shied away from the idea, thinking monogamy was the only way her relationship with Evan could work. After much discussion over the next four years, they decided to officially open their marriage six years ago; currently, both of them date other people. Evan's girlfriend of 4 years is Sheila, who lives in another state. Lola is currently seeing two men outside her marriage: Dylan, who she's been seeing for 2-and-a-half years, and Frank, who she's been seeing for 8 months.
*Names have been changed to protect privacy.

Sunday

Rare lazy Sunday morning at home with Evan. Coffee, breakfast, and snuggles. We don't get to do that often, there's usually a lot going on. I check in with Dylan about our upcoming date and overnight. Usually when we see each other, we make a plan for the next time. Dylan can't host and I have to do a lot of extra planning to make hosting at my place work, so we usually stay at a hotel. There was a mix-up this month, but we sorted it out. I'm glad I touched base with him.
Evan and I don't tell each other whom we're texting. When we first opened up our marriage, that was information we felt we needed to share. Now, as long as texting isn't taking us away from quality time together, it's not a big deal. We'll ask, "Do you mind if I leave the room?" if we need privacy, but it's not about asking for permission, it's more about consideration, especially if we're in the middle of watching a TV show together.
"I would feel bad if he were home alone with no plans while I was with someone else."
We end our lazy day together with a movie in bed and sex. It's still important for us to connect in that way after all of these years.

Monday

Talking with Evan over breakfast, I suggest he get in contact with Sheila to see if she's free this weekend, since I won't be home and I know he doesn't have any other plans. She's married with kids and lives in another state, so they don't see each other as often as I see the men I'm dating. He doesn't always plan ahead like that.
I would feel bad if he were home alone with no plans while I was with someone else, but that would be me projecting because he loves napping and video games. If I was in that position, I would be bored, so I make the suggestion.
There have been times when he was with Sheila and I was on my own. I wasn't jealous, but I felt sad I didn't have anybody to be intimate with. We've been in an open marriage for six years now, but that's not that long. I had to get over feeling like we need to do every single thing together as a couple—not just related to sex. We spent years doing everything together: traveling, discovering new places, and things. When you start sharing your life with others, that's not possible. It took me a while to wrap my head around it and be okay with it.

Tuesday

Today is a quiet day working from home. I get up early, answer emails, then see Beauty and the Beast with friends. I get home in time to go grocery shopping with Evan. We make dinner before I have to excuse myself for a Skype meeting. Afterwards, I snuggle with a book in bed with Evan.
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Wednesday

Frank reached out to me; we haven't been able to see each other a lot recently. We don't have a set schedule for meeting up though we've been seeing each other a few times a month for the last 8 months. He's a music teacher, he tutors, and he's also married. Neither of us have a lot of free time. Part of our attraction to each other was finding someone who got that. We see each other when we can. We make it work.
After checking in with Evan to make sure that he's fine with me making last-minute plans, Frank and I schedule a time for tonight; this will be our first time seeing each other since mid-January. In general, I prefer to have things planned out ahead of time. It's easier for me that way. I don't mind last-minute plans as long as it's understood that I may not be able to drop everything and see them. Dylan also leads a busy life, too, so we tend to plan out our time together way in advance. He knows I can't always say yes on a few hours' notice.
Since I'll be out with Frank tonight, I make sure dinner is ready for Evan. It's not a rule that I have to make it, but it was my night to cook. We generally take turns making dinner. I don't want to take advantage of him being nice about my last-minute plans. This is one of those moments where I try to be as courteous as possible. I also do the laundry and clean the kitchen since it's chore day.
"I brought some paddles and other sex toys with me that I currently only use with him."
Evan gets home from work early and offers to drop me off at Frank's house because it's on his way to run errands.
Frank gives me hot pink mirrored clitoris earrings, which is a nice little surprise. I brought some paddles and other sex toys with me that I currently only use with him. I'm submissive with him and he usually has a scene planned out for us.
Since I know I'll be seeing Dylan in a few days, I ask Frank not to bruise me, something I normally enjoy. It's not a secret that I'm kinky with Frank, but I haven't asked Dylan how he feels about bruises.
"In the beginning it was awkward coming home from dates, but now it's not."
Everyone knows about one other, though. In fact, Frank asked me about Dylan when I started seeing him, saying, "Do you like him?" He genuinely wants to know that I'm being taken care of and I'm happy when I'm not with him. Evan has met Frank; all of us, including Frank's wife, had Christmas dinner together. It was awkward at first because I didn't know what to expect, but then it was fine. We had a great night. Everyone got along. It felt really natural. I was worried about all of us relating to one another, but we were all chatting and laughing.
Not everyone I see outside my marriage meets Evan. It speaks to where I am mentally with someone if I'm introducing them to him. I need to trust you and be comfortable with you to invite you into that part of my life.
After we fool around, I make the bed. I always do at Frank's. It's my little way of saying hello to his wife. She knows it's me because he hates making the bed.
After I get home, I have dinner and watch TV with Evan. In the beginning it was awkward coming home from dates, but now it's not. Evan doesn't want to know about what we did sexually; he just says, "Did you have a good time?" I show him my new earrings.
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Thursday

I'm busy at work and getting ready for a performance at a local university tomorrow, so I don't have a lot of time for texting. Frank checks in with me to make sure I'm okay. We don't have formal labels for each other. I just call him "my person" because "boyfriend" puts certain connotations on things that don't really apply to our relationship.

Friday

Performance day is always hectic because there's so much to do, but it goes well and afterwards Evan and I go out to dinner with a friend. She knows about the people I'm seeing. Actually, all of my friends know we're polyamorous. They don't act any differently. We have an amazing group of friends who are open minded and accepting of our lifestyle and our partners.
It was a long day. We go right to bed when we get home.

Saturday

Evan is going to meet up with Sheila this weekend, so I help him pick out his outfit. I want to make sure he has the right clothes for the weekend she has planned. He needed something dressy-casual to wear to a nice restaurant and party they were attending, and he hates picking outfits.
In the evening, I teach a sex ed class at a sex shop. Dylan comes to pick me up. He tells me where we're going for dinner while we pack up my gear.
We have crepes and take a cab to the hotel. When we get there, I check in with Evan to let him know I arrived safely and to say goodnight. That's something else we always do.
I met Dylan on OkCupid; most of the people I date I meet there. I tried Tinder for two weeks and didn't like it. OkCupid provides more information and the quality of connections I made were better.
On our last date, we filled out yes/no/maybe lists [regarding our sexual interests] and watched Finding Dory because we're both big kids at heart. He was amazed I hadn't seen it. We have similar taste in what we watch; we both like weird British comedies. Bonus points for me, since he's from the U.K.
I can barely unpack my bag. We haven't seen each other in a month and we can't stop touching each other. After we have sex, we order dessert from a local diner. It's midnight. Dylan gets cheesecake and I get rice pudding and we fall asleep watching British TV shows. We have sex again at 3 in the morning, then we lay in bed being silly and chatting. Eventually, we both pass out.

Sunday

We sleep in until 10 a.m. We'd been planning on spending the afternoon together, but he gets a text from his wife and has to go home earlier. I'm slightly disappointed but I understand; stuff happens.
Thankfully, it's not an emergency, so we have time to have sex again. Then we take showers, have coffee, and grab a quick breakfast. I make sure he has enough time to get home and that I'm not going to make him late. Dylan and his wife are newer to poly than we are; they've only been open for two years. I want to make sure I'm a good person to her as well, even though she and I haven't met yet. I don't want to cause issues.
"It's hard enough when you first open up your marriage."
It's that courtesy thing again, but also karma. It's what I would want someone to do for me. It's hard enough when you first open up your marriage. I want him to see that I care about his home life being good. Plus, if she feels threatened or what we're doing doesn't work for them, he could always say, I can't do this. I don't want that to happen. I like him a lot.
I take advantage of my free afternoon and do a little shopping. When I get home, I check in with Even, who's on his way back from his visit with Sheila. He's running a little late, but he did our weekly grocery shopping on the way home, so I'm not upset.
I take a much-needed nap. It's been a long week.