Orgasms Only Get Better With Age: Science Tells Us Why

As we age, our orgasms only improve according to science. Finally, science provides us with good news that might just lessen some of our aging-related anxiety! Orgasms come (no pun intended) more frequently, easier and with less interference. Whether this is related to age alone or if confidence, experience or anything else factors in has not been reported yet.

Better Orgasms? Science tells us that we have better orgasms when we age, but does not pinpoint exactly why. There are a lot of reasons that are mentioned and a lot of conflicting opinions, but the end result is still the same. The data says the orgasms that people experience are more intense, more frequent and more… everything, as they get older.

Why Are They Better? The speculation on why the orgasms get better varies from hormone treatments to experience and even includes personal acceptance. For many people the “why” is less important. Aging can be scary, and people want something to look forward to and better orgasms are definitely something to look forward to for most people.

Practice Makes Perfect? If the concept that “practice makes perfect” is the key to better orgasms, that would imply that everyone is expected to have several sexual partners, and with each partner their sex life would improve. There is a nearly reckless amount of data on both sides of this theory.

Sexual Compatibility. Another theory is that by the time people are older, they have figured themselves out and met up with someone they were truly compatible with. That compatibility leads to better, more in tune, sexual experiences and better orgasms are the result.

Sexual Peak? There is the ubiquitous “Sexual Peak” findings from the 50’s that people have essentially considered to be the law on when people excel sexually. This data is not only outdated, but a bit depressing as the ages of men and women at their sexual peak are nearly twenty years apart.

Kinsey. Dr. Alfred Kinsey of the Kinsey Institute researched sexual peaks in the 1950’s and published his findings on the sexual peak of men and women. According to Kinsey’s research, a woman will reach her sexual peak is in her late 30s, while a man reaches his sexual peak around 18 years old.

Disputing Kinsey. Dr. Kinsey’s research has been heavily disputed since the 50’s. Since that time there have been findings to suggest that the sexual peak is a myth! Lori Brotto, a psychologist from Canada who specializes in female sexuality believes Dr. Kinsey asked the wrong questions and so his data is flawed.

Differences. Brotto said “The myth comes from Alfred Kinsey’s data. The questions he asked were for different age groups. ‘What is the maximum number of orgasms you have in a given week?’” Kinsey’s research revealed that women who were approximately 35 years old and men who were approximately 18 years old had more orgasms than the other age groups.

More Recent Realizations. As studies on sex and orgasm continued, science made some pretty interesting discoveries. Brotto points out the obvious: “What the data doesn’t reflect well is why are 18-year-old men having orgasms so frequently? They’re masturbating all the time.”

The Difference for Women.Brotto also noted the difference for the women when she said “Well, in 1953 when this book was published — they were likely married, in a stable relationship and knew who they were. We know that orgasmic ability becomes more frequent with age and relationship security.”

Better Sex Overall. Gaining confidence and being more in tuned with what your body likes is invaluable. If something is not working, you know how to adjust or make request adjustments to make it better for you. As people age it does take longer to achieve an orgasm, which means more intentional, adaptive sex and much better orgasms in the end.

Demand What You Want. As people get older they are less willing to waste time on what does not work for them. Sexual experiences that are not fulfilling are not the goal, and older people are less likely to accept them. Older individuals know what works for them and while they may be experimental, they will defer back to the tried and true options to achieve an orgasm.