Polite Ways To Tell Your Partner They’re Bad At Oral

The last thing anyone wants to do is call their partner out for being bad at oral. It doesn't exactly inspire love and romance. If anything, you may as well be digging them into a hole of doubt. Oral should be fun. It should be easy. But not everything goes the way we hope it will. Sometimes someone goes down on us and fails to trigger the fun button. All we're left with is disappointment, boredom and possible teeth marks. If you find yourself in this particular scenario, and you're nervous about hurting your partner's feelings, fear not. There is a way around this predicament. Keep reading to find polite ways to tell your partner they're bad at oral.

Ask them to try something else. You don't have to actually tell them they're not doing something pleasant, but you can be smooth about it. Just ask them to extend their reach, so to speak (even if what they're reaching with is their mouth).

Explorative. It'll make them want to get more explorative.

Give them some direction. You know what every good movie needs? A director. Without one, you'd get a bunch of talented actors tearing apart the set like monkeys and the whole crew sabotaging Hollywood to the point that movies would cease to exist. This is why you need to give your partner some direction. It'll keep them in the know.

Work with their head. You can say an awful lot with your friends, so that's exactly what you should do. If your partner is doing something wrong, redirect them with some light pressure. Tilt their head, move it down, move it up — you're in control now!

Offer suggestions. There's nothing healthier in a relationship than communication. If oral just isn't what you want it to be, talk to your partner like you would any other time. Tell them you wanted to try something (even if it's something you've already tried before) to get them eager to experiment.

Encourage something specific. If you know exactly what you want and your partner just isn't doing it, don't keep it a secret. Tell them you want your balls licked like this or that you like when they focus on the clitoris. You don't have to be shy. You've already got your pants pulled down.

Articulate through sounds. You know what is almost impossible to confuse? Moaning. If someone moans negatively, you'll be pretty aware that you're doing something wrong. If someone moans positively, you'll keep doing whatever you're doing. So don't make them feel uncomfortable. Just moan.

Mention something after you're done. Maybe it's weird for you to give them direction while they're going at it. That's OK. Simply wait until you finish and talk about it casually. "Babe, I love you, but there was one point where your teeth kind of scraped against my d*ck." She's not going to hate you. You're being honest.

Show them a porno that explains it better. There is a porno for everything. So if you love it when someone licks circles around your a**hole while tickling the tip of your d*ck, just find that video and show it to your partner. But do it casually. Be like, "Oh snap, I love that. Wanna try?"

Tell them what you like specifically before they start. Before they're on their way down to oral town, give them some suggestions as to what you're into. Tell them where to focus and what to do/what not to do. You're not being judgmental. You're just letting them know.

Tell them about your most sensitive areas. There are some parts of your genitalia that feel so good when they get tongue-tention (that's attention from the tongue, you plebeians), but there are also parts that are just too sensitive.

Ask him to try different things so that you can settle on what feels best. You never really know what you like until you try it, so do the same with oral.

Tell him you want him to find what makes you feel your best during oral. This will make him feel like it has nothing to do with him, but with you.

Behave discomfortingly when they do something you don't like. If something hurts, don't hide it. That's just stupid. You don't want to be stuck suffering through oral for however long your relationship lasts, when you can be enjoying it. If it hurts, don't fight back the wincing. Make that wincing known.