Some couples wouldn't even dream of going to a sex party because they're afraid of the potential problems that might affect their relationship as a result. To them, sex parties simply exist in their fantasy. They see no benefit in making them part of their own reality. The truth is, though, sex parties can be so much more than most people expect. The thought of sharing a partner might give them life-destroying anxiety, but in reality, it's really not so bad. Keep reading to find out how dragging my boyfriend to a sex party made miracles happen.Would you ever bring your partner to a sex party? Let us know in the comments!
Lovers. Some couples are perfectly comfortable keeping their relationship strictly one on one. Anything more isn't just unnecessary, it's frowned upon. They're happy exactly the way they are, and they'd rather not go any further. But that's not all couples…
Branching out. To keep things fresh, some couples will go all out. When they're willing and when they're confident in the relationship they have, they may be willing to think outside the box. Whether they're desperate or just interested, they give alternative options a try for a start.
The spark. Wanting to shake things up doesn't necessarily mean that something’s wrong with the relationship. It just never hurts reigniting that spark that healthy couples share, to keep things fresh and new. A stale relationship is often the sign of dwindling affection.
Sex party. This is where the idea of attending a sex party together as a couple enters the picture. While some people might understandably shy away from this idea out of fear of sharing their partner, it turns out that actually going to one is hardly as intimidating as it seems — and it doesn't have quite the destructive effect that most couples are afraid of.
Bringing it up. “I knew I'd never be able to bring it up, or I kind of felt like I couldn't. But this one night I remember we were having sex and it kind of just came up. Started with dirty talk, but it evolved past that. I started showing my genuine curiosity for it, but also made sure that he didn't think I was needing anything more than him.” —Joelle R. from Illinois
Going for it. “I never thought my boyfriend would extend the conversation past having sex, but it ended up coming up within the week. We kind of talked each other into it, and then all of a sudden we were legitimately looking into it. Then, one day, we're all of a sudden there. And it was as intense as I thought it'd be and just as sexy.” —Joelle R. from Illinois
The big night. “The first time we went (we've only been twice in total), it was nerve-wracking, but in a good way. I felt re-energized somehow, like I flipped to a new chapter and was able to revitalize myself. And I think he felt it too. We didn't have sex with anyone else, but having people watch us and watching other people changed us. I feel like we met for the first time again.” —Joelle R. from Illinois
Shocked and hesitant. “Guys get this reputation for being tough and like all they want is sex, but that's not true and if you met my boyfriend you'd get that. When I told him I wanted to check out a sex party, he didn't freak out, but something was up. He thought something was wrong at first, but when he realized there wasn't anything wrong, he still had serious reservations.” —Kim L. from New York
Dragged. “I love how sensitive my boyfriend is, but at the same time, I knew he loves being in his comfort zone. When I coax him into doing something, he always ends up loving it. So that's what I did. I tricked him into coming out with me for a fancy dinner (so that I knew he'd be looking his best), and then we went… somewhere else.” —Kim L. from New York
The fit. “I swear to god he put up a fit. He kept saying ‘no,’ he kept telling me why he didn't think it was a good idea and how it would only f*ck up what we have. But I knew that would never be the case, and I knew he'd have so much fun, so I made him do it regardless. Obviously, once we got there, he wasn't as neurotic as he usually is.” —Kim L. from New York
Kinks. “Once the night started moving along, it picked up quickly. We just decided to lose ourselves in the experience. And even though we never went back (even though we're considering it), it seriously opened doors. We're both into new things we never even would have considered. I feel like our relationship is new again. It's amazing.” -Kim L. from New York
Birthday present. “I couldn't convince my boyfriend to go so I called his bluff on telling me I could have anything I wanted for my birthday, as long as the budget was in reason. So I told him what I wanted: a sex party. And I wanted him to take me. And I didn't want to hear any excuses.” —Anna O. from Florida
Obliging. “It took a lot before we got here, but he eventually got better about it. I mean it literally took months. But he told me if I really wanted it, he'd do it. So we did. And honestly I was nervous too. But when we got there, we both kind of like transformed. It was like watching [adult films], but the most intense kind. I remember immediately feeling closer to him.” —Anna O. from Florida
Watching. “So that night, my boyfriend and I realized we had something in common that we never realized before. We enjoy watching people have sex. If you told me that before the party, I would have laughed. But after you've actually experienced it, it’s different. We enjoy watching. Which is why we go whenever we get the chance (not like an insane amount of times, just a few).” —Anna O. from Florida
Closer. “I never realized how much I seriously loved my boyfriend until we went to the party. You didn't need to convince me beforehand, but being able to come back home to him, knowing that I had him and that he kisses way better than any of the other guys there, it made me feel so much closer and so much happier.” —Anna O. from Florida
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