Sarah Silverman still loves you, America: "This is a show about trying to be open"

Rarah Silverman is not her usual ebullient self during our recent phone conversation. Completely expected, given that our chat takes place on a Thursday during a sliver of a break in her production schedule for her weekly Hulu series “I Love You, America with Sarah Silverman.”
But in addition to the usual day-of-debut stressors, this particular Thursday happens to be October 4 — judgment day, for all intents and purposes, in the vitriolic Supreme Court confirmation process surrounding Brett Kavanaugh. Despite the Judiciary Committee agreeing to a “limited” FBI investigation that turned out to be largely for show, the positions of key Democratic and Republican senators are already clear by the time we speak.

In response to the question of how she’s feeling, Silverman answered, “I'm trembling with rage. I don't know what else to say. I'm a little discouraged and heartbroken.”
Who isn't these days?
“But,” she adds, her voice clinging to the slightest note of optimism, “this is part of a big moment in history and I'm hoping the pendulum swings the other way, you know? Hard.”
The tension of our times demands to be addressed, however. As such, recent episodes have made the title of “I Love You, America” feel like less of a spirited declaration of unconditional affection than a plea to do better.

Silverman has been a force in the comedy world for more than 25 years, initially making a name for herself by slinging a take-no-prisoners brand of shocking humor. But in recent years, and certainly on this show, Silverman's modus operandi has been to start from a place of feeling, with the agreement that everyone has a right to their point of view. That's difficult territory to defend in 2018, but Silverman is insistent. Her new cold open segments, branded as “Sarah’s Quickie,” endeavor to maintain her bright outlook despite the encroaching darkness inflicted on us by divisive politics in Washington.
But as the weeks have worn on and our collective outrage elevated, Silverman's cheerful demeanor has, understandably, diminished. Her take dated October 3 is about as dark as it gets, showing the rally in which Donald Trump mocked Dr. Christine Blasey Ford. She then dismisses Trump, writing him off as a “void,” addressing senators directly instead.

“This is no longer a job interview,” she says. “This is a line in the sand, and you have to pick a side. And the side is no longer Republican or Democrat. Your vote is a statement. And that statement is either, ‘Hell no, this is not OK, this is not who we are.’ Or it’s telling every woman, every girl, every boy, every person, that what happens to women’s bodies does not matter.”

Her delivery is even, serious, passionate but containing a quiet, justifiable rage, even as she asks senators to be brave.
“Alright, I gotta go. Sorry this wasn’t funny,” she says, making her exit before saying, through partly gritted teeth, “I should smile more.”
Seeing Silverman snarl is validating and cathartic. Yet is also feels a bit deflating given what we know about her general view of the world and the tone of her series. “I Love You, America,” now in its second season, is a resolutely optimistic enterprise its host describes as “a show about trying to be open.”

Open doesn’t mean passive, mind you. "I have no space for liars. I don't, I'm not trying to hear the side of liars,” she told Salon. “It's wealth addiction, greed as addiction, as like not being able to see anything else. And those people have an immense amount of power and influence. We've raised generation after generation to believe that money equals success at no matter what cost or how it's accrued. And that’s how we got the president we have.”
To that end, Silverman conscientiously strives to do more than simply highlight the political tribalism dividing the nation. She leaps across the chasm, getting herself invited into the homes and intimate spaces of people from the opposite side of the political spectrum, hardcore Trump boosters and ultra-right-wing activists of every stripe. Silverman makes it a point to listen to what they have to say, firsthand, challenging them at times but never disrespecting their views.
“I see a very big distinction between the liars and the lied to, between the .01 percent who will sacrifice the well-being of other humans for more stuff," Silverman said. "There's the big difference between them and the people who believe them, who are motivated by fear. They're manipulated by that fear and what is unknown to them. And of course I have room to love them, and to want to connect with them.

“There's a huge disparity between those people even though they all seem to be on the same ‘side,’” she continued. “So yeah, this show is just as much about speaking truth to power as it is about trying to connect with people who get their news from Fox News and Breitbart and the president's tweets. They’re believing liars, that's their crime. Their fears are being exploited. That's the difference.”
Operating from a philosophy of embracing the other as opposed to raising defenses against them makes “I Love You, America” unique among talk variety series, to say nothing of the fact that she's one of only two women operating in this space, the other being Samantha Bee. ("I love Sam Bee!" she said) Silverman, though, goes beyond simply punching upward at the power and corruption running roughshod over our nation — which, it must be said, is vital and provides an important service beyond mere catharsis.
Throughout each half-hour, even as Silverman challenges adversarial points of view and provides solid fact-based data to refute any falsehood, she never treats the people to whom she speaks with anything less than respect.
Using humor and the odd celebrity guest, “I Love You, America” tackles broader issues bedeviling our nation as well as mulling over recent events. Within the same episode, we might get a field piece in which Silverman embeds herself with a hardcore anti-choice organization before, in a subsequent segment, sitting down to a meal to hear NFL players Doug Baldwin of the Seattle Seahawks and Malcolm Jenkins of the Philadelphia Eagles discuss the stakes of their protest.
“It's just crazy what a bunch of old men are doing because they're going to die. The legacy of selfishness of this administration is just astounding. And it's a bed we all kind of made. We can't just point fingers, you know. We're all kind of culpable,” she said.
Even so, she added, “I'm trying to have hope. I'm trying to believe that, you know, every person is just a child plus time who's developed certain survival skills and not everybody grows up to realize you have to unlearn those skills because they're not healthy for others or yourself. There’s a different side of me that feels a different way, of course. But all I can think about now is just the election, you know, and hoping that people's votes are counted.”

This election is exactly who we are: divided by race, geography and gender

Remember the swing of the pendulum? It’s always been the go-to explanation of American politics. The pendulum swung for Jimmy Carter, away from the crimes and Vietnam war of Richard Nixon. It swung for Bill Clinton, away from the sunny conservatism of Ronald Reagan and George H.W. Bush. It swung for Barack Obama, away from the lies and rich-guy cuddling of George W. Bush. It would be tempting to say the pendulum swung again, away from Donald Trump and toward women and people of color.
But the pendulum is stuck. It’s stuck because Donald Trump came along and gave about 40 percent of the electorate permission to come out of the closet where they had been sitting with their racism, misogyny, and nativism. And they delivered.

They’re out there now, the so-called Trump “base.” In fact, they’ve taken over one of our two political parties. The party of Lincoln, the party of Eisenhower, the party that helped to lead the way on civil rights, the party of Morning in America and the Shining City on a hill, for crying out loud! The Republican Party — remember them? — is now the party of Donald Trump.
Call it what you will — a movement, a cult of personality, a political tribe — it’s a fixture of American political life, and it’s not going away. It’s hugely white, and largely male, and mostly rural, and getting older every day, but it’s a solid block of voters, and Trump has them locked up.
Sure, the election yesterday showed that there’s been some erosion among Republicans. They lost the moderate women in the suburbs around major cities in Pennsylvania, the Midwest, and even Orange County, California. Democratic wins in House districts that had been previously red show that not even Republican gerrymandering since 2010 could save Republican candidates from a wave in House elections that wasn’t as blue as it was rainbow and female.

But Trump didn’t just let the genie out of the bottle when it comes to racism, misogyny and xenophobia. He invited the genie into the White House and set him up in the Lincoln bedroom and told the White House mess to keep the Diet Cokes and burgers coming. It’s hardly worth going through how racist and nativist the Trump White House is — not a single African American in a position of any significance, not even among interns. Steven Miller holding the Chair in Immigrant Bashing. John Bolton — John Bolton! — in charge of the National Security Council. The man is pals with the likes of the nation’s number one Muslim-hater, Frank Gaffney.
You know what it takes to get someone out of a cult like Scientology? An intervention. Probably several interventions. You can’t do an intervention on the Trump base. They aren’t persuadable. There’s too many of them. They’re done for. Gone. They’re his.
This is who we are now. The House looks like us. The Senate looks like Trump. Women, minorities, and young voters carried the day for Democrats. White men, rural voters, and older people carried the day for Republicans.

What does it mean, what happened yesterday? It means Trump is free. Don’t worry about him doing anything desperate, like starting a war. He doesn’t have to. He’ll go straight from demonizing the penniless people in the “caravan” to demonizing Democrats. He’ll continue to demonize the media. In fact, he’s already started. In the closing days of the campaign for the midterms, he was telling his rallies that Democrats are “evil,” that Democrats are “using a wrecking ball on our country,” that Democrats will do everything from opening our borders, to taking away your Medicare and Social Security. He told them that the media caused the killings in Pittsburgh and in the pipe bombs sent to Democrats, because the media was reporting “fake news.” He went from telling five or six lies a day to telling ten. One day, he was reported to have told 70 lies, misstatements of fact, or exaggerations. Seventy.
He’ll keep it up. He doubled down on racism at his rallies. He doubled down on lies. He doubled down on misogyny. He doubled down on media-bashing. He’s standing in front of a room full of reporters right now in the White House as I write this, and he is telling them that he “won” yesterday. He’ll keep doing what he did, because he thinks that’s what “won” for him. When it comes to the tight Senate races he managed to swing his way, he did. He won. We lost.

Trump was asked if he thought he could use his “relationships across the aisle” to bring some peace to our political life. He answered, “I would love to see some peace, and love and harmony,” and then launched into an attack on the media for covering him unfairly and inaccurately, his face scowling.
Doesn’t he just love to fucking lie? There’s nothing Trump would like to see less than peace and love and harmony. He wants an all-out war with the Democrats, because less than 24 hours after the polls closed for the midterms, he’s running full-out for re-election in 2020. What works for Trump is division and discord and hate, and he’s going to promote a war with Democrats every day for the next two years. Every day.
He told the press conference that he’d held over 30 rallies in the last 60 days. Wait until you see what he does now. The Air Force will need to put on extra mechanics, because he’s going to wear out Air Force One. He’s going to hold rallies in high school gyms in one stoplight towns. He’s going to spew his lies and hate as far and as wide as he can, because that’s what works for him. He plays the Rolling Stones at his rallies because he thinks of himself as a political rock star, and in red hat-wearing America, he is. He’s a chubby Mick Jagger. He’s a white Kayne West. He’s Kid Rock, without the kid, and without the rock.

The question of the moment is, what do Democrats do now that they’ve taken the House and have some momentum? I’ve never heard the names of committee chairmen like Adam Schiff, Jerry Nadler, and Elijah Cummings spoken so reverently so many times by so many grinning pundits in my life. They’re using the word “oversight” like it might actually mean something.
Sure, House committees should do what they’re supposed to do and ride herd over the runaway corruption of the Trump administration, which has already had resignations of cabinet secretaries and indictments and convictions of at least one senior White House official — Michael Flynn — with more probably on the way.
But did you notice what seemed not to carry much weight in the midterms? The Russia investigation. Did you hear anyone out there on the stump yelling about Tom Price or Scott Pruitt, ousted from the Trump cabinet after multiple investigations of corruption? I didn’t.

The problem with investigating Trump’s administration to death is this: what if they force out Ryan Zinke? There’s another Ryan Zinke right behind him, just like there was another Scott Pruitt right behind him.
Trump is licking his chops, waiting for Democrats to hold their congressional hearings and issue their subpoenas. He practically had an orgasm answering a question about Democrats going after his tax returns. He can’t wait. He’ll throw down legal roadblocks and then sit back and scream at the “fake news media” for covering him unfairly. Trump isn’t so much a counterpuncher as he is a mud wrestler. He could turn good weather into an issue to use against Democrats. In fact, I think he already has.
I can’t wait for Nancy Pelosi to take the gavel when the House reconvenes in January. I can’t wait for Adam Schiff to put some Trumpkins back under oath who lied to his committee when Devin Nunes ran it. But I hope Pelosi is prepared to ignore the tsunami of tweets Trump has ready for her, because that’s the only way to handle them. She should start right now by leading a movement to unfollow Trump on Twitter. Call it the “Delete His Tweets” movement. But do something, and do it now.
This is who we are, folks, and it’s who we’ll still be in 2020 unless Democrats take the wins of 2018 and double down for 2020. Trump doubles down on racism? Double down on equality. Trump doubles down on misogyny? Double down on equal pay and abortion rights. Trump doubles down on xenophobia? Double down on compassion and pride in our history as a country of immigrants.

Double down for the Senate. Double down for state houses. Double down for governorships like the one we won in Kansas (!).
I hope Democrats take the gains they made in the battleground states of Michigan, Ohio, Pennsylvania, and Wisconsin (Scott Walker gone! Yaaay!) and double down this way: Start right now looking for venues and scheduling rallies. And start right now looking for a candidate who will fill them with blue hat wearing citizens who will turn out and vote.

How can I make my orgasms last long

Orgasms will tend to last
anywhere from a few seconds to less than a minute for most people, most of the
time.
Female orgasm often tends to
last a bit longer than male orgasm -- but for men and
women like, we're still talking within an average of a few seconds to around 30
seconds most of the time. They can feel like they last longer than that -- and
the pelvic contractions we feel during orgasm can also make one orgasm feel
like more than one -- but as far as single orgasms go, that's how long they
usually last.

Mind, some people can have what
we call "serial" orgasms, which means that you have a kind of orgasm
that's a little bit like popcorn popping: once one orgasm starts, another
follows right on its heels, and possibly another after that, so that it feels
like orgasm goes on for a few minutes, rather than a few seconds. Technically,
serial orgasms are a multiple orgasm, rather than a single, just not the kind
where you have a whole or partial cycle of sexual response leading up to the
next one, or take a break from sex after orgasm, then go back to sex later and
reach orgasm again.

Not everyone is multiply
orgasmic (and not everyone who is always wants to have more than one orgasm,
either: some folks prefer only having one, sometimes or even always), and we

don't really know yet why some people are and others don't seem to be, no
matter what they try, and some studies have even suggested that genetics might
be part of the equation. We also know that with women, it's typical for younger
women to have a tougher time reaching orgasm or having multiple orgasms: on
other words, greater sexual pleasure and more intense orgasm does
tend to increase with age.
The way to find out if that's
something you're capable of or enjoy is just to experiment. That might mean
continuing oral sex while you're having that one orgasm and then beyond. It
might mean quickly shifting to an additional or secondary sexual activity, such
as having a partner then add a sex toy, adding fingers for manual sex, or shifting to
some form of intercourse. With clitoral stimulation specifically, remember that
your clitoris is a lot bigger than it looks! The part a partner is stimulating
on the outside via oral sex is only one part of it, so switching things up to
stimulate other parts -- like the internal clitoris we can feel through
massaging the outer labia or with manual sex inside the vagina -- may be the
ticket to extending your orgasm a little or bringing you to a second one. Which
of those things does the trick on any given day or for any given person is just
a matter of communicating to your partner what you want to try and
experimenting to find out what you uniquely enjoy and what works for you.
Sometimes, more of a given
sexual activity or any kind of sexual activity -- even when we switch to
something else -- right when we've reached orgasm can feel like too much: our
genitals will often be hypersensitive with or after orgasm. This can also vary
from day to day, sexual experience to sexual experience, and from orgasm
to orgasm. On one day with one given orgasm, more sexual activity on
one area may not feel good at all and just feel ticklish or even a little
painful. If it feels like that, you may want to take a little breather then go
back to sex in a few minutes or a few hours, or just be done with sex for that
day, period. On another, it may be just the thing and feel fantastic. Again,
this is something that you can find out just by trying different things and
seeing what works for you.
You can also explore some of
this yourself through masturbation. While you can't give yourself oral sex, you
can use your hands, sex toys or other objects to experiment with your own
sexual response and orgasm, and might even find some clues there you can pass
on to your partner.

Just remember that our enjoyment
of sex is really about the whole process. Just because orgasm is
something that tends to be short and fleeting much of the time doesn't mean
it's a bummer. Orgasm is an awesome finale, to be sure, but so is everything
that comes before and after, and that's the stuff we usually can stretch out a
lot more when we want to.

How To Hang Out With An Old Hookup Buddy

The dos and don'ts of being friends with a former fling.
In this modern age of dating, casual sex, and fun hooking up, many of us remain friendly with people we've seen naked long after the ugly-bumping has come to an end. That said, there are still plenty of rules that must be followed if you actually want to maintain some semblance of a friendship. Just ahead, 20 dos and don'ts of having a post-hookup friendship. The Frisky: Six Rules For Being Friends With An Ex
1. DON'T ask for the website address for, say, a company that sells sexy thigh-high stockings, your personal favorite fetish wear, because you want to buy your new hookup a pair. This is why God invented Google.
2. DON'T kiss and tell. Unless it is on a blog and you use fake names.

3. DO erase any nudie photos you might have on your computer or cell phone, unless, of course, the nude body part in question is not actually attached to a head that is visible. Those are fair game to show to anyone. The Frisky: Why I'm Happy To Be Single (For Now)
4. DON'T call and ask for more naked pictures since you are tired of the ones you got a year ago when you were hooking up.
5. DON'T text four months later and apologize that it's been so long since you've called but it was because you got back together with your ex and then proceed to propose getting a drink. The Frisky: 16 Things You Don't Want To Know About Your Boyfriend's Ex
6. DON'T ask for or give dating advice. Your ex doesn't care about your love life anymore now that it doesn't involve him.
7. DON'T use the following vomit-inducing words to describe your former relationship: "fondly," "bond," "special."

8. DON'T call/text/email needing a shoulder to lean on, especially if your problem (say, ongoing unemployment) has not changed in the nine months since you last boned.
9. DON'T mention how the person you're currently boning is slightly superior to your ex, as in he/she went to Yale or something.
10. DON'T try and play matchmaker. The Frisky: MERRIMe, A New Web Comedy About Online Dating
The dos and don'ts of being friends with a former fling.
11. DON'T be touchy-feely with each other. It's just confusing.
12. DON'T try and date each other's friends. Unless Ryan Gosling is a "friend," in which case, all bets are off.
13. DO have actual conversations when something is awkward or uncomfortable. It's an honesty-is-the-best-policy situation.
14. DO try your hardest to forget the sounds you each made during orgasm. Also, eradicate any memory of the orgasm face.
15. DO avoid talking about what went wrong in your relationship.
16. DON'T ask to borrow any of the following: car, money, a drug dealer's contact info, or anything requiring inordinate amounts of time or energy (like, say, proofing a resume).
17. DON'T attempt to re-friend someone who has conspicuously de-friended you as some sort of empty peace offering.

18. DO spring for a meal or a drink, for God's sake. If you left a bad taste in your ex's mouth about being a cheapskate, now's your chance to remedy it. A person's memory about an ex's bad behavior is impressionable.
19. DON'T get your ex-hookup and your current hookup together, hoping for a three-way, because the odds are better than good that you're only going to end up pissing both of them off.
20. DON'T try to play your ex-hookup against your new hookup. You'll look like a jackass.
Written by Amelia McDonell-Parry for The Frisky

Clit Is Much Bigger Than You Think

Did you know you have an "internal clit?"
The White Stripes have a song called "The Hardest Button To Button." According to Jack White the song is about a child dealing with a new baby sibling, but when I hear the title I always think of the clit.
Some women can orgasm from clit stimulus alone, some prefer penetration, and some like both at the same time. According to this Betty Dodson video, via Susie Bright's Journal, the clit and the G-spot are part of the same gland, and the whole thing is way bigger than you think.

According to these sexperts, the head of the clit, also known as the glans (and yes, it's analogous to the tip of the penis) is just that, a head. The clit contains 8,000 nerve endings, and that's just in the bump that sticks out. The entire organ includes internal clitoral legs, shaft, glans, bulbs, vaginal opening, urinary tract opening, the perineal sponge, etc etc.

When a woman is turned on she gets a clitoral erection, similar to a man's hard-on, but since the female version is mostly inside the body and since women have not been taught to tune into their undercover clit tumescences, most women don't know when it's happening.

The video is not very sexy, (Who knew the clit had legs? Kinda reminds me of a frog) but it's informative, so check it out, so you know what's really going on when you're buttoning your (or your lover's) button.

Orgasms 101

Last week I was doing some research on orgasms.  I was stunned to find that most of my search results came up with two types of female orgasms.  Most results referred to either clitoral or vaginal orgasms.  Those are certainly two types, but there are many more.  I’ve counted eight orgasms that directly relate to parts of the female anatomy:
1. Clitoral orgasms are the most common type women experience.  I’ve been having clitoral orgasms since fifth grade, but I’ll spare you the details.  They’re created by intense and direct stimulation of the clitoris.  One great thing about clitoral orgasms is that you can have them just about anywhere, with or without a partner.

2. Vaginal orgasms, as far as my internet research uncovered, really meant g-spot orgasms.  The g-spot is a sensitive area of ribbed tissue on the front side of the vagina, generally 2-3 inches inside the vaginal opening.  It is the inside end of the clitoris.  If you think of the clitoris as one end of a barbell, the g-spot is the other end.  They’re connected by a bundle of nerves and either end of the bundle is an incredibly sensitive erotic spot.

3.  There is another vaginal spot that can trigger an orgasm.  It’s not well known, but from personal research I can tell you that it’s not a myth.  It’s the anterior fornix erogenous zone, or AFE spot, and it’s located on the front wall of the vagina just below the cervix.

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Which Gives Better Orgasms, Christian Grey Or Christianity?

Christians and 50 Shades fans alike can learn from Biblical teachings on sex!
Most Christians know instinctively that sexually punishing and degrading women is wrong, and many of their blogs and articles rightly focus on the physical and emotional abuse rampant in the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy. But when they attempt to discuss the sexual aspects of the books, many of them know only to hide their eyes and cry, "Porn!"
Christians' articles, and especially their blog comments, frequently reveal gross ignorance about God's plans for lovemaking. Quoting their trite words denouncing the series, fans of the trilogy often ridicule Christians' prudishness in their own blog comments and articles.
God commands Christians to be sexually knowledgeable.
Contrary to their often willful ignorance about sex, God commands Christians in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5:

"For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God..."

God states that he wants us as Christians to enjoy something better than the lustful passion of the Gentiles—a sanctified sexual life. In other words, God wants Christians to "know" about lovemaking so they can delight in chandelier-hanging sex. It's not enough for us to say, "I never think impure thoughts or cheat on my mate. And I certainly don't engage in sadism, masochism, or humiliation."
God expects much more of us. He wants us to say, "I enjoy better sex than the Gentiles—particularly better sex than Grey and Ana. I know the secret for enjoying a vaginal orgasm—something the Gentiles naively assume doesn't exist. My wonderful sex life is visible in the spring in my step, the sparkle in my eyes, and the smile playing with my mouth. And you can especially see it in the loving way I treat my spouse and children."
God wants Christians' love lives to testify to the power of his greatest creation—the way of a man with a maid in Proverbs 30:19, giving her sexual pleasure beyond description in the form of a vaginal orgasm.

Instead, the world often snickers at Christians' sexual ignorance and criticism of Fifty Shades of Grey. Until God's people learn how to possess their own sexual vessels in sanctification and honor that rejoices in God's creation, Fifty Shades of Grey will continue to ensnare lonely men and women starved for affection.
Clitoral orgasms in Fifty Shades of Grey vs. vaginal orgasms in the Song of Solomon.

Obviously, author E.L. James knows a lot about some forms of passionate lovemaking. Her descriptions of Ana Steel's clitoral orgasms are very graphic and right on. In the early 1970s, Dr. Marie N. Robinson stated in her book The Power of Sexual Surrender that just reading a description of a vaginal orgasm was all some women needed to experience one. Perhaps James' descriptions of a woman's enjoyment of her own sexual responses is part of what turns women on to the series—they are learning for the first time what a clitoral orgasm feels like.
In the Song of Solomon, the young Shulammite maiden says that her mother taught her how to please a man and how to enjoy lovemaking (Song of Solomon 8:1-3). Women at the time of the Song of Solomon knew how to exercise their Kegel muscles to strengthen their pelvic floor without knowing the modern term for it. They knew how to experience a vaginal orgasm by tapping into the most important sexual organ of all—their brain. The Shulammite's mother taught her that for sex to be a chandelier-hanging affair, a woman needs to find a soulmate before lovemaking.

For forty years, I've taught women how to enjoy a vaginal orgasm in my classes and in my book Christians Make the Best Lovers. Any woman who has experienced both orgasms knows the physical sensations of a vaginal orgasm are far superior to those of a clitoral orgasm.
A clitoral orgasm does not require love or an emotional involvement with the man. Grey has mastered the art of giving a woman a clitoral orgasm. Even with Grey's perverted use of painful bondage and punishment, a sexually naive woman can respond to the right manipulations. Proverbs 7 describes a wife who delights in clitoral orgasms. I devote a whole chapter in Christians Make the Best Lovers to her hang-ups that trap her in sub-standard pleasures.
Sexual responses are learned. Fortunately, bad sexual habits can be unlearned. And Christian women ought to be able to teach young women how to enjoy the ultimate pleasure in lovemaking—a vaginal orgasm (Titus 2:3-5).
Fans of Fifty Shades of Grey often reveal they are starved for true sexual love. The world wants what God gives freely to Christians through study of his word, yet too many Christians turn up their noses at God's free gift.

Fifty Shades of Grey denies a woman the right to a vaginal orgasm.
In the first sex scene in Fifty Shades of Grey, Grey brutally deflowers the 21-year-old Ana. He whispers, "We'll have to train you to stay still" and "keep quiet" during sex. Any woman who has had to keep quiet while making love at someone's house knows how inhibiting it is to tone down her vocal and physical responses to her husband's moves. Yet Grey states his mission is to make Ana the perfect sexual partner for himself—to turn her into a physically frigid woman while somehow keeping her emotionally engaged. This is impossible for women who regularly enjoy vaginal orgasms.
Like Ana's horny inner goddess who argues with her frigid subconscious, causing her to be so conflicted about how to react to Grey, many fans defiantly reject society's sermons that "nice girls don't like sex." Ignorant religious teachings from the Dark Ages don't help! Although God teaches more about the sexual relationship than any other area of marriage, including subjection, many Christian women still assert, "God wants me to be a dud in bed."
Now fans are giving Fifty Shades of Grey to their husbands or reading sections to them and saying, "I want you to make the earth move for me," but they don’t know enough about a wonderful vaginal orgasm to recognize how sick and depraved Grey's abuse of Ana is—how he is really cheating her out of the joy of experiencing chandelier-hanging orgasms.

God saves the best sex for Christians.
God has preserved a whole book of the Bible—the Song of Solomon— as his soulmating and lovemaking guide to prepare us for a lifetime of passionate sex. And if Christians understood this fascinating love triangle as they should, we would not be witnessing millions of women being taken advantage of by fifty shades of phony sensationalism. Instead of laughing at the sexual ignorance of Christians, the world would be asking, "How is a vaginal orgasm possible?" We'd be living and teaching about SPEAKING GOD'S BEAUTIFUL LANGUAGE OF LOVE™ which transcends words.
Sadly, too many Christians are terrible lovers and sexually illiterate themselves, and thus ripe for becoming the laughing stocks of bloggers. To God, in whose mind sexual love originated, be the glory and the power forever and ever—Yes! Especially in the bedrooms of those who dare to love and serve him with all their minds, souls...and bodies.
Find out how you can enjoy a vaginal orgasm at my website: PatsyRaeDawson.com.

Readers describe Patsy Rae Dawson as the most outspoken Christian woman on sex, referring to her frankness and comfort talking about sex. Her unique ability to unlock the scriptures and challenge traditional views makes her a popular speaker and writer. To learn the secret of how to enjoy a vaginal orgasm, read Patsy's book God's People Make the Best Lovers. Patsy also shows men why every orgasm is not the same for them. In most marriage problems, couples fail to value the unique mental and physical differences between men and women. In God's People Appreciate Marriage (which includes a verse-by-verse study of the Song of Solomon), Patsy shows how masculinity and femininity balance, support, and delight in each other. "I'm falling in love all over again" is the most common statement readers make.

Are You A FAKER? 5 Signs Your 'O' Is Faux

When it comes to pleasure, don't settle for anything less than the real deal.
Are you a woman on the go who barely has time to have sex, let alone think about your orgasm? Do the pressures of life have you disconnected and afraid to let go and feel pleasure? Do you feel that faking your orgasm is necessary?
If you fake your orgasm, you're not alone. For many of us, we find reasons not to have sex, we avoid feeling what is happening down low and, most of all, we turn off sensation and pleasure. Our lives have become so stressful that having an orgasm is the last thing on our list.
When the time does come around for intimacy and sex we're left with one choice: FAKE it.
Faking an orgasm is real. But, when you acknowledge your fake out, you can begin to connect to your orgasm in new and exciting ways. Realizing that orgasms have healing energy and power can help ease any stress that plagues your day.

In order to get back to the real deal, you may have to dive into the signs that you're faking your orgasm and recognize that this is actually happening and a real part of your life.
It's tricky to navigate the bedroom dynamics when it comes to sexual pleasure because there's a lot that comes into play when a woman wants to have sex and orgasm.
Time alone with your partner, intimacy issues, feeling good in your body and performance all contribute to a successful orgasm.
But before you fake it again, take the time to recognize these five signals that you're faking and make a conscious decision to dedicate yourself to discovering the power of your orgasm:
1. You Have Sex Only To Please Your Partner
Your partner begs and pleads with you and you finally give in to please them. You're tired, exhausted and your partner wants to "make love". The thought makes you want to vomit but you go ahead and take part in the process because you know in your heart that you have to connect to keep the relationship going.

So you go through the act of sex to make sure that your partner is happy in the relationship and all the while knowing that you can’t let go of the spinning thoughts in your head.
Midway through you suddenly think, OMG I have to do something or my partner will feel like I don’t want to do this! So you moan, groan and make some amazing sounds and movements, panting at the end and throwing yourself at the feet of the mercy of sexual intercourse.
All along your head is somewhere else and you barely feel anything.
2. You're Thinking Of All The Things You Have To Do After Having Sex
Your mind is way off in the tasks and chores you have to do as a woman. You're drifting off into some space that you don't belong and wondering how you're going to have sex at all. The job, bills, your friends, your kids, and the laundry all wander into your mind as you try to go through the sex act.  

You feel distant and disconnected so you begin to rub your hands all over your partners body and tell them how much this means to you. Despite the fact that you are wishing you were somewhere else.
3. You're Gritting Your Teeth During Sexual Foreplay And Intercourse
The tension in your face is a true sign that you are faking. During the act you feel yourself bare down in your mouth and grit your teeth. You wonder how you are going to tell your partner that sex is making your feel uncomfortable.
Writhing and moving you begin to think of the most sexual porn star and the sounds she makes. You begin to mimic those sounds in hopes that you might transform the experience into something incredible. 

After it's over you fling yourself on the bed and exclaim, "That was the best sex ever, honey!"

4. Your Vagina Feels Dry And Worn Out
You say, "Yes" to sex and immediately regret it. Your vagina is dry like sand paper. It feels as if nothing is happening at all down low and even the best lube on earth cannot save you from this moment.
Your vagina is saying this is a fake out moment so you start to fantasize about the guy you saw at the coffee shop that had just come out of a Cross Fit Class sweaty and pumped up. But, once again, your mind drifts away to another place and it is all you can do to stay in the game and get off.
5. You Tell Your Partner It Was Amazing When You REALLY Feel Violated And Alone

Inside of you are tears and pain but you fake it and smile after what seemed like amazing sex. Exclamations of "WOW!" come out of you as you valiantly cover up the tears of pain and hardship in bed.
Each and every one of these orgasmic fake-outs is a tool that you may use to avoid feeling the pulse and flow of your vagina and its amazing power. In every fake out, although you're in some other place feeling some other sensation, there's a trace of an orgasm that could be used to come into the lower part of your body to build up tension release into bliss.
The problem with most orgasms is that they need time and focus and if the orgasm is not being nurtured and built up with attention and mindfulness then you're driven to take another path and fake it. The sounds, feelings and need to get out of your head are incredible tools for helping you descend into your base and feel more connected to pleasure and bliss.
What is important to realize is that behind the wall of tension and stress lives an amazing experience of energy, love and passion.

Your orgasm is the answer you've been wanting in your life, and all you have to do is realize that it may need your attention just as much as all of your other responsibilities. It can help you connect, heal, feel, open up and be fantastic.
The effort used for your faux 'o' is the actual action you need to get your energy surging, pulsing and flowing.
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16 WTF Facts About Getting It On That Make Us Question Everything

Mind = Blown
Prepare your mind, for some serious learning is about to go down. Class is in session!
Sit down and get comfy because these 16 sex facts will widen your eyes and drop your jaw to the floor:
1. While most women believe that men can't fake an orgasm—they actually CAN. Men can also orgasm without ejaculating.
2. Contrary to popular belief, most men actually DISLIKE lacy lingerie. In a recent poll, over 65 percent of men preferred leather or cloth to lace.
3. Ducks have corkscrew penises that fit perfectly into their female partner. Ouch!

4. Couples who cuddle are 8 times less likely to get depressed than those who only kiss and cuddle during sex.
5. Wearing 2 inch heels may strengthen pelvic floor muscles, which will help you orgasm longer. Bring on the heels!

6. The earth could be re-populated to its current level using the number of sperm that could fit into an aspirin capsule.
7. The heart beats at an average of 140 beats per minute during orgasm. A resting heart rate is between 60 and 100. I know what I'm doing for my cardio.
8. Kellogg's Corn Flakes were originally invented to suppress masturbation. Inventor John Kellogg believed the problem of masturbating could be fixed by keeping body heat out of the penis, which they attributed to food intake.
9. Semen contains chemicals that elevate mood, increase affection, induce sleep, and contain at least three antidepressants.
10. Semen is an anti-aging agent.

11. Semen has approximately 5-25 calories per...um...dose?
12. According to Men's Fitness, women have sex 17 percent more often than the average man. Go ladies!

13. The word clitoris is Greek. The root of the word is the Greek word for "key" as in the key to a woman's orgasm?
14. Women report having just as good if not better sex in their 70s than in their 20s.
15. Men are more visually stimulated than women, but it doesn't mean women don't like porn!
16. Foreplay and overall sexual satisfaction go hand in hand for both men AND women.