What Sex Positions Do Men Like Most?

Women aren’t mind-readers, and what a man finds sexually arousing can come as a bit of a surprise to us because men often think and feel differently about sex than women. So I set out to discover their secret desires and get myself into the sexual mindset of a man.

Why? Well, because it is interesting, and also because I want to share all the juicy gossip with you lot, so that we can all be Sex Goddesses in the bedroom this weekend!

To approach the topic I decided to look at it from two angles:

1. What sex positions do men find visually stimulating?
2. What sex positions are most physically stimulating for a man?

In my previous article Men’s Perspective: Is the Woman on Top Sex Position All That? I discovered that while men may enjoy the visual treat of seeing their woman bounce up and down above them, that doesn’t necessarily mean they are getting the potential physical stimulation that this sex position has to offer.

The woman on Top might tick the mental turn on box for a guy, but is that enough to place it the favourite sex position ratings? A woman needs to know how to ride a guy after all, and more importantly, she has to own the position, love it, and know the sex techniques that get her and her man hot!

I decided to put all of my previous assumptions about men’s sexual preferences to one side and go out and actually ask them about their favorite sex positions.

Never underestimate his desire to thrust

A man might be sweet and gentle with you in the bedroom, he might be slow and sensual, but underneath it all, he has a primal instinct to go crazy. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t enjoy all the slow sensual stuff, which can be the means of an intense build up, but in the end, he wants to really use his penis and go in as deep as possible.

It is not always possible to thrust deeply during sex, though. His penis might be too big and make deep thrusting uncomfortable, and many sex positions aren’t designed for it anyway. Often women read about sex positions that are designed to help with their own orgasms, and they forget that men have sexual preferences. Sex isn’t just sex to a guy, so don’t assume that as long as he is penetrating you with his penis that everything is as it should be.

The men I spoke to all agreed that the best positions for deep thrust satisfaction are those that involve taking a woman from behind.

Bending a woman over furniture, spreading her legs and entering from behind, for example, allows enough space for deep penetration without discomfort or risk of injury. There is also something very raw and primal about taking a woman from behind, which men love.

The best rear entry sex positions

Entering you from behind can also be a turn on for men who enjoy anal sex. Not all women like the idea, but you can indulge the fantasy by showing him your ass. Here are some great ideas for rear entry sex positions…

1. Doggy – With you on all fours on the bed, your man has an amazing view of your ass, especially if you lean your chest down onto the bed and arch your back so that your bum sticks up and out like an invitation. While you are up on all fours, he will be able to thrust away inside of you.
2. Up against the wall – With you facing the wall this sex position can feel very spontaneous and naughty. You can press your palms against the wall while he thrusts into you from behind. You can even make it more exciting by doing in with most of your clothes on, and hitching up your skirt.
3. You lying face down on the bed – He will sit up behind you and have all the leverage he needs to thrust at a satisfying rhythm for both of you.

Perhaps the best thing about rear entry sex positions for women is that it isn’t awkward for you to play with yourself, or for him to reach round and stimulate your clitoris and nipples with his fingers.

Don’t be intimidated by the pornographic connotations of sex positions like the ‘doggy’. Sometimes rear entry can feel like it lacks intimacy, but if he draws himself towards you so that you can feel his body against your back, it can feel sexy and intimate as well as raw and naughty.

Men love watching your body move from behind; the curve of your spine and the flesh of your butt cheeks will add to his visual enjoyment.

Other sex positions that get a guy hot

When you put together the fact that guys like the satisfaction of a decent thrust, and the visual stimulation of seeing a woman in erotic positions, it is perhaps not surprising that men seem to also enjoy the following sex positions, all of which allow for both of these factors to be taken into account.

1. Legs in the air, please! – Says one guy. He described to me in great detail exactly why he loves getting a woman on her back, gripping hold of her ankles in the air, and pumping his butt vigorously all the way to climax. He expressed an interest in the power connotations of this sex position, the fact that he is able to take control of the thrusting, and the fact that he can slow down and watch her play with her clit in front of him.
2. Spooning in the morning – Believe it or not, guys like to spoon in the morning; mainly because they want to enter you from behind and relieve their morning glory. This is less about the erotic appeal, though. “I love having sex in the spooning position because I know it makes my girlfriend feel safe, loved, and I enjoy feeling the sensation of her grinding her ass into me.”
3. Missionary – It might be the most boring in the book, but there are guys who like the missionary position. One guy described how he brings his woman to orgasm with slow deep circular movements, building up the tension and speed, rubbing his pubic area against her to stimulate her clit while getting deep inside with his penis. He said that she closes her eyes and goes off into her own world, and he can just watch her, which turns him on and makes him come hard.

No Need To Fake It; Your Partner Can Tell When You Climax

Are you guilty of faking an orgasm? You can probably get away with it on a one-night stand, but your partner can always tell when you’re faking it. A study conducted at the University of Waterloo has revealed men and women involved in a heterosexual relationship are quite adept at perceiving their partners’ level of sexual satisfaction.

"We found that, on average, both men and women have fairly accurate and unbiased perceptions of their partners' sexual satisfaction," Ph.D. candidate from the Department of Psychology at Waterloo, Erin Fallis, said in a statement. "We also found that having good communication about sexual issues helped participants to understand their partners' sexual satisfaction. However, even if sexual communication was lacking, a person could still be fairly accurate in gauging his or her partner's sexual satisfaction if he or she was able to read emotions well."

Fallis and her colleagues from the university recruited 84 heterosexual couples participating in a large scale study based on sexual function and sexual satisfaction. Without the involvement of their partner, each participant was asked to report on their level of sexual communication, sexual satisfaction, relationship satisfaction, commitment, and their ability to recognize emotions.

Out of the relationship factors each participant was asked to report on, the research team identified sexual communication and the ability to recognize emotions as playing instrumental roles in gauging their partner’s sexual satisfaction. Researchers hope their findings will help dispel common misconceptions surrounding men and women’s ability to communicate and understand each other both on a sexual and emotional level.

"Over time, a couple will develop sexual routines," Fallis explained. "We believe that having the ability to accurately gauge each other's sexual satisfaction will help partners to develop sexual scripts that they both enjoy. Specifically, being able to tell if their partners are sexually satisfied will help people decide whether to stick with a current routine or try something new."

According to The Kinsey Institute, 75 percent of men and 29 percent of women report constant orgasms when engaging in sexual intercourse with their partner. Compared to the 64 percent of women who reported having an orgasm during their most recent sexual experience, 85 percent of men said their partner had an orgasm the last time they were intimate. Surprisingly, only 40 percent of men and women said they were pleased with both physical and emotional satisfaction within a relationship.

"The next step in this research is to look at the impacts of having more or less accurate perceptions of one's partner's sexual satisfaction over time in long-term relationships," Fallis added. "We expect that having a more accurate understanding of one's partner's sexual satisfaction will have positive impacts for both partners' sexual satisfaction and we're eager to test this idea."

Your Mind Blowing Orgasm in 5 Easy Steps

A female orgasm is somewhat more complex than a man’s is – but we also have an advantage. When we have an orgasm, we can still have sex. And have another, and another, and another orgasm. Use your advantages to the fullest – here are a few tips on how to have mind blowing orgasms.

#1 Masturbate

You know, there’s this old Woody Allen quote from the movie Annie Hal where he says “I’m such a good lover because I practice a lot on my own.” It’s very true. By masturbating you can find out what feels good, and what doesn't. You can’t expect your boyfriend to know what you like if you don’t know it yourself. Find out what touch and where makes you really… happy.

#2 Don’t Sleep With Idiots

This might come out as strange, but the 1st step to a girls' amazing orgasm is actually not sleeping with idiots. By idiots, I mean raw, selfish men that only care about their own pleasure and won’t do anything to get you of. For instance, a guy who only receives oral sex is qualified as an idiot.

#3 Mint Lubricant

This is a magnificent product every woman alive should be thankful for and have a pack of it at home. It makes sex less painful and will get you so horny that you’ll want your mind blowing orgasms to stop, because you can’t handle any more. They aren’t really expensive and you can usually buy them at the same places that sell condoms.

#4 Positions

It’s very important to know what will result in orgasm in different positions. If you’re doing doggy style, he has to stimulate your clitoris with his fingers. You can do it yourself, too. Same goes to any position where your clitoris isn’t stimulated. If you are doing the missionary, try to get a little more under him, so his penis would “hit the clit” when it penetrates.

#5 Be Honest

Don’t fake orgasms. Men don’t fake their orgasms “not to hurt our feelings”, why should you? If you fake orgasms, your partner will think he’s doing everything right and will just continue doing the same over and over again. Try making allusions about the things you like – show him with your hand and tell him. Be shy in church, not your bedroom. Be relaxed and open. Shyness won’t get you anywhere except towards a really bad faked orgasm. Have sex when you feel you should not because you feel you should.

We are certain that if you apply this advice, your orgasms will be as mind blowing as they can be. Yes, sex it’s self is great – bet really, there is nothing in the world like having mind blowing orgasms to make a girl happy.

3 Shocking Truths on How to Have a Longer Orgasm

Don’t you just find yourself fantasizing about having an orgasm that lasts for more than a few seconds? Lots of women think that it’s not possible, but it actually is. You just need a couple of tricks.

#1 Prolong It

If you’ve ever read a book on sex, they all say that you should prolong your orgasm in order to have a better one. Well, there is a trick for having a longer orgasm too.

Whenever you feel like you’re just about there, either slow down or completely stop for a moment. Continue cuddling and kissing with your partner, but stop the penetration or whatever you’re doing to achieve an orgasm. Continue your game after a couple of minutes and again, once you reach the point where you’re almost there – make a pause.

This is not only great for your orgasm, it’s also fantastic for your partner’s skills too. He would be able to keep a longer erection like this, which will result in a better experience for the both of you.

Don’t do this for too often though, because after a while, you might start feeling like you’re just torturing yourself and completely loose the will to continue. Two to three times is just enough – then relax and enjoy fireworks.

#2 Don’t Speed Up

As soon as you reach the moment where your orgasm is just seconds away, you naturally want to speed things up and reach it. Forget about doing this in order to have a longer orgasm.

Don’t speed up at all. Establish a rhythm and stick to it until the very end. No matter how much you would like to speed up at one moment, keep it slow. The slower you go, the slower your orgasm will come, but it will last longer and it will be more intense.

You can always stop completely for a couple of minutes if you feel like you’re going too fast and you want it to last longer.

#3 Try Oral

There has to be a good reason why guys love oral sex so much, right? So, why wouldn’t you try it too?

You don’t hear girls talking about oral sex as much as guys do, but there is no reason why you shouldn’t try having it. Often, it’s the best choice when it comes to having a longer orgasm. The reason for this lies in two tricks.

Your partner’s tongue can be fast only to the certain measure. Furthermore, he’ll need a break every now and then. This is a perfect combination of prolonging and keeping it slow. When you add the perfect joy of receiving oral sex into the mix – you’re in for the best orgasm you’ve ever had.

New research says that women are genetically programmed to have affairs

WEBCAM trysts, illicit texts and dating sites especially for married people – in many ways, it’s never been easier to have an affair.

But although the stereotype is that it’s always men who do the dirty (and everyone knows that they have an “evolutionary reason” for sowing their seed as far as possible), a new theory claims women are genetically programmed to have affairs, too.

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A new theory claims women are genetically programmed to cheatCredit: GETTY IMAGES

“Early woman would have seen having an affair as ‘mate insurance’,” explains Professor David Buss, who led the research at the University of Texas. “If their current partner died or could no longer provide protection and resources, a back-up plan was essential to survival.”

Although men still have more affairs than women – or at least are more likely to admit to them (15% of married men, compared to 9% of married women)*, this new research has shone a light on what makes women likely to stray. So here’s how to discover if you could be heading down a one-way path to Cheatsville. You might want to hide the answers from your partner...

Count how many of these statements apply to you

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Could you be tempted to stray?Credit: GETTY IMAGES

I’ve faked an orgasm in the last three months 

A 2013 study revealed that the more orgasms a woman had pretended to have, the more likely she was to cheat.** “Faking orgasms says a lot more about a woman’s odds of staying faithful than her actually having orgasms,” says sexual psychologist Justin Lehmiller.

“It’s not simply about being sexually satisfied, but how willing you are to deceive your partner in the bedroom – and then outside of it, too.”

My age ends in a 9 

There might be something in the midlife crisis cliché. One study that examined data from extra-marital affair dating website Ashley Madison found men and women who were about to enter a new decade of their life were the most likely to have an affair.***

I’ve cheated in the past 

The phrase: “Once a cheater, always a cheater” might actually be true. In one study, researchers found that of those who had previously had sex outside of their primary relationship in any previous or current relationship, 62% of women did it again.

I look at my Twitter and Facebook feeds more than five times a day

Research shows that the more often a person uses Twitter, the more often they have “relationship conflicts”, culminating in cheating, break-ups and divorce. Previous studies have suggested similar results for heavy Facebook users, too.

“This might be because you’re mentally bringing other people into the home and the relationship – third-wheel syndrome,” says Justin. “Or it might simply be because you’re interacting with more people, and so the overall chances of you meeting a new partner are higher.”

I earn a lot less than my partner

A 2015 study found that the chances of husbands and wives doing the dirty were higher if their partners earned more money than them. “The theory is that for economically dependent people, infidelity may be an attempt to restore relationship equity and power,” says Justin.

If a shop assistant gave me too much change, I wouldn’t be honest enough to say

Researchers from the University of Koblenz-Landau in Germany found that people were more likely to stray if they failed an experiment that required them to lie to get a small amount of money.

“This is all to do with a personality measure that psychologists call the Honesty-Humility factor,” explains Justin. “Essentially, the more likely you are to be dishonest about something small, the more chance of this trait manifesting on a much bigger scale.”

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Figures state that 45% of women will cheat at some point in their livesCredit: GETTY IMAGES

I like surprises

Sensation-seeking personality types who have a heightened need for stimulation are more likely to cheat. A 2009 experiment found that participants who wanted to be given a surprise element during a test were more likely to cheat in the situation.

My ring finger is longer than my index finger

A study by Oxford University found that having a long ring finger means you are statistically more promiscuous and more inclined to commit adultery.

Research has found that this “2D:4D” ratio — the ratio of the length of the second digit (the index finger) compared to that of the fourth digit (the ring finger) — reveals the amount of male hormones, mainly testosterone, a person is exposed to in the womb. Elevated testosterone has been linked to increased likelihood of having an affair.

I find it easy to switch off from certain emotions

Studies have found that people who are sociosexually unrestricted – which means they find it easy to have sex without getting emotionally attached – are more likely to stray. People who identify with this personality trait are also more likely to have higher sex drives and to disassociate the act of cheating with hurting their partner’s feelings.

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Research has shown that 80% of women have fantasised about someone other than their partnerCredit: GETTY IMAGES

Now add up your score

 Ticked 7 or more?  You’re highly likely to cheat

Chances are you’re fantasising about having an affair or are in the first throes of one. “The first thing I’ll say is you will be found out,” warns therapist Andrew Marshall. “These days, you leave a trail of evidence.” Aside from bank statements and texts, your behaviour will be a big giveaway.

“A partner can tell if you pull back,” adds Andrew. “And while you’re consciously causing pain to another, the one who’ll end up most hurt is you, as you have to live with the painful fallout. Seek therapy by yourself or as a couple, or the pattern will repeat.”

Ticked between 4 and 6 ? You’re moderately likely to cheat

Innate factors, such as hormones or personality, mean you’re likelier than most to be tempted. “If you feel this way, there’s a reason why, such as dissatisfaction with your partner,” says Andrew. But if you fancy a hot guy at work, don’t feel too bad – see it as a wake-up call. If a couple seeks help before the affair stage, it can strengthen a relationship.

“The situation makes you re-evaluate both your needs. Handled carefully (eg with a therapist), telling your partner you’re attracted to someone else doesn’t have to be the end of the world. You may even find they have felt the same,” Andrew says.

Ticked 3 or fewer?  You’re unlikely to cheat

The idea of betraying your partner is one you can’t fathom. But this could change. “We have affairs not always because we want another person, but because we’re looking for another version of ourselves,” says Andrew. “Some women have them in times of vulnerability or big change. It’s a type of comfort.”

Worried your partner will cheat? “Work out what’s really happening and what your insecurities are,” says Andrew. “Open and honest talks are the way forward.”