What My Date With A Sex Worker Taught Me About Sex

We're not recommending that you have a date with a sex worker, or that you don't, but if you find yourself in a situation where you are on a date with a sex worker, pay close attention. A sex worker could seriously help you improve your game. It's what they do for a living! Naturally, they've got to be good at it and they probably know more than you do on the subject. If you want to get better at math, you get a math tutor. If you want to get better at sex, consider this your classroom. We're going to teach you some tips about sex that can revamp your life between the sheets.

Sex can just be sex. If you're going on a date with a sex worker, chances are you're not going out because you're hoping she'll be "the one." Sex can just be sex; purely for physical satisfaction and relief. It's a human need, just like eating and sleeping. Sometimes, you just have to scratch the itch.

Although, even sex workers crave emotional sex. What you might not expect, though, is that most sex workers don't rule out their emotions. Rendering yourself entirely emotionless for all of your sexual experiences can be damaging to your mental health. Instead, many sex workers do value the emotional connection that sex can foster, even if it's just in the moment.

Go outside your comfort zone. If going on a date with a sex worker isn't going outside your comfort zone enough, it certainly can teach you to do so. They've seen it and done it all. Literally nothing will surprise a sex worker. They can help you travel outside your normal boundaries.

Don't judge. If you're having a date with a sex working, you are entering a judgement free zone. They certainly aren't going to judge you for your wants and likes in the bedroom because it's literally part of their job. Hopefully, this teaches you to be less judgmental of others when you get to the bedroom. If you start seeing someone you care about but find they have what you consider to be a strange fetish, maybe it's not all that strange. Maybe you're just judgmental.

Sex is normal. A lot of people feel shame, insecurity, or awkwardness when it comes to sex. They doubt and criticize themselves and they can even feel guilty about their sexual lifestyle. What a sex worker can attest to, and what everyone should understand, is that sex is completely natural and normal. Even the weird stuff!

Be open to new ideas. Just like your date with a sex worker can strip your world of sexual judgement, it can open you up to new ideas. Sex workers are obviously extremely experienced in their field and have an endless bag of tricks. Learn from it! Don't reject new experiences because they're unfamiliar.

Make sex fun. Sex doesn't always have to be about romance or passion or deep emotional connection. Aside from just being physically pleasing, sex can also just be pure fun! Don't take yourself too seriously in the bedroom. Lighten up. You'll be more relaxed and enjoy yourself more.

Try bringing in new toys. If you do eventually find yourself in a situation where you have a regular sexual partner, see about introducing toys into the bedroom. Talk to them about it first, but it could seriously enhance your sex play. Sex workers don't just work with their natural equipment, they work with all sorts of fun stuff. Take a page out of their sexy book.

Eliminate awkwardness. Nothing is fun when one or both of you are feeling awkward. All you're going to be thinking about is how awkward and uncomfortable you feel when really you should be focusing on the opposite. Whatever self-esteem issues you have can be left outside the bedroom door.

There is a distinct difference between "harder" and "faster." Some guys have a handle on this, but a lot of guys sadly don't. Men often equate the two words instead of viewing them as separate commands. Once and for all: "Harder" denotes intensity of impact while "faster" denotes speed. You can go harder AND faster, but they aren't one in the same!

Ask for pointers. If you're not sure what to do, ask! Incorporate the questions into dirty talk or some kind of sensual foreplay, but you can actually straight up ask your partner what you could be doing to please her better. If you're on a date with a sex worker, questions are asked all the time because usually there is less pressure for romance or for the perfect love session. You can ask for pointers with someone you care about, too!

The more you know... As they say, knowledge is power, and in the bedroom, this couldn't be more true. Don't feel weird about doing your research. The more you study up about a woman's anatomy, the better you'll be able to please her.

How to add romance. As per the "date" experience, a sex worker can show you how to add a little more romance to your real dating life. A sex worker's job is to make you feel special and satisfied. They don't just do this during sex, but in the way they interact with you and speak with you.

What she really wants. More than anything having a date with a sex worker could be an illuminating experience because it could fill you in on what it is a woman really wants. If you've been having problems with your sexual life, it's likely because you either don't know what you're doing or you're doing the wrong things. Take it upon yourself to figure out how to correct it.

Sex is mostly about communication. While sex is primarily a very physical activity, the key to making sex great is great communication. Both partners have to be willing to speak their mind and to listen when the other person does. Just like with anything else, receiving feedback and learning how to improve can only make things better.