Most -- if not all -- couples fight about a lot of the same things. The dishes. Sex. Money. That's the just the way it is. But do couples ever grow out of these kind of arguments? Like, are there some topics they just agree to disagree on? Or conversely, are there some topics they start to agree on (read: compromise about) over time? Yes and no. Over on Reddit, one user recently posed the question: "What are some common relationship arguments that all couples eventually get into?" Here, we highlight what folks had to say.
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User “Diegojones4.” "The nothing argument. You are both just in a pissy mood for whatever reason and something starts it. Then it goes on and on and you have no clue why you are arguing, you just know that you are pissed off and you will be damned if you will back down first."
User “grossly0verestimated.” "Sex. Over your lifetime, your sexual desire has peeks and valleys. Sometimes you may want to have sex every day, some times once a month is enough. An individual won't have the same appetite his or her entire life. And when you partner up with someone, you have to navigate their sexual preferences as well. So one might be having a spike of desire, while the other is more withdrawn. It can cause major issues, especially if it's not something that both parties are willing to work on.”

User “RumpleToughskin.” "I hate the you were home all day argument. I work first shift my girlfriend second shift pretty much 10-7. I'm home like 4 hours before her so apparently its my job to shop cook and clean because I have more ‘free’ time."

User “RebeccaRegicide.” "Distribution of chores. How much one is working compared to the other. What/where are we going to eat. Habits that one partner does that annoys the other partner."
User “FreefallFormation.” "The first, second and fourth bullet point is what drove my ex and I over the edge into arguments more times than I care to remember. Especially when I got a new job that completely switched my work hours from 7am-3pm to 12pm-830pm, we wanted to take the next step in our lives together so one of us had to get a better paying job to at least set the foundation for the future. But life goes on and I took the money I make from my job and started to work towards my future, last I heard she was doing pretty well for herself also."

User “zazzlekdazzle.” "Housekeeping is the apple of discord. It's hard to find someone who is feels exactly the same way you do about how things should be maintained, and it's hard to deal with another person's messes (or cleanliness demands) regardless."

User “br00dle.” "Once you start living together there will be arguments about why you can't have a totally sweet fire pole going from the attic, through the bedroom, to living room but she gets to have pink flamingos in the yard."
User “TooMuchPants.” "When you eventually plan your wedding, you will basically have to tell both sides of in-laws to fuck off and do what makes the two of you happy. If you both start taking sides, you'll have a bad time."

User “Silvergun_superman.” "How many people have you slept with?’” Another added: "Ugh a guy I dated asked me that once and I answered honestly (it was 4 including him) and he got all disgusted and said that I obviously didn't respect myself. Then he told me he'd slept with 22 women and he didn't see the hypocrisy behind what he was saying. Yeah I broke up with him."

User “aint_that_a_b*tch.” "Almost all of my husbands and my arguments stem from a misunderstanding. We always say we speak two different languages and end up in the stupidest arguments. Anxiety causes a lot of my issues. I'll get angry for no reason.
One person being in a pissy mood and not wanting to talk about it. One person being critical (even constructively) of the other and it being taken the wrong way. Misunderstanding, again."
User “Silver060.” "Well depends on the couple but from my experience there are always 'conversations' about where the relationship is going and if we are going to have kids and get married etc. The main argument that I have with my SO is over who's doing certain chores like the washing up or vacuuming the stairs."
User “Scrappy_Larue.” "She comes home furious about a problem at work.....He offers up a simple solution to that problem.....She is now even more angry, because he was supposed to listen, not advise."

User “divinelollipop.” "One Word... Dishes. 90% of the arguments with my husband are about dishes in or around the sink."
User “happypea.” "Making meaningless decisions, there is a difference between being polite and being lazy. I don't want to have to think a plan for the weekend either don't give me that "I don't mind whatever you wanna do" BS."
User “back2bach.” "For holidays such as Christmas and Thanksgiving: Which set of parents will the couple spend the holidays with if both live at a considerable distance and it's not possible to celebrate these occasions on an equal basis?"
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