Simultaneous Orgasm: How to Climax Together

Climaxing together doesn’t just happen in the movies. It’s a real thing couples can do together, not a myth. But it takes a bit of work. You have to know what you like, and you have to be able to orgasm during sex. There are certain positions that can help you and your partner reach simultaneous orgasm, but a good attitude is the most helpful tool. Keep reading to figure out the elusive simultaneous orgasm.

Come with me. The idea of orgasming at the same time as your partner is super hot. It just seems so intimate...and unattainable.

Gratifying. Ian Kerner, PhD, author of "He Comes Next," told Cosmopolitan, "climaxing within seconds of each other is one of the most gratifying sexual encounters you can have. Every sensation is amplified since you're experiencing it in tandem."

Know yourself. Before you start trying to climax together, know your own body. Figure out what gets you off, what spots to hit, etc. This will help you control your orgasm.

Climaxing during intercourse. If you have trouble climaxing during intercourse, simultaneous orgasms will be harder to achieve. Many women only get off from oral. Try using extra lube to simulate the wetness of his mouth, or stimulating yourself during sex.

Know your partner. Knowing what gets him off during sex can help you reach the finish line at the same time. Maybe he ends too early during doggy style and you take a little longer. Plan accordingly.

Ladies first. Since most women take longer to climax than men, start off pleasuring her. Getting her warmed up first with oral or digital stimulation can make it easier for her to orgasm during sex.

Positions. Doggy style is best for clitoral stimulation. 69ing can also be a good alternative for women who can’t climax through penetration alone. And, of course, cowgirl!

On top. When a woman is on top, she has an easier time getting off. This way, she can control her pleasure and stimulate her clitoris while she’s grinding. So you can both climax together while she’s working it.

Practice makes perfect. Don’t expect simultaneous climaxing to come naturally. Understand there are roadblocks to a pleasurable union. Be willing to experiment to try what works best. Stay motivated!

Bridge technique. According to Jezebel, the bridge technique can help you transition to simultaneous orgasms. This is when you stimulate a woman right up until the point of climax. Then, he penetrates her to trigger the orgasm.

Stats. Timing is fickle when it comes to simultaneous climaxing. According to the Daily Mail, roughly 75% of men in relationships always have an orgasm with their partner, while only 30% of women do. Men's orgasms usually last 5-10 seconds, but women's orgasms can last 15 seconds or more.

Challenges. There are going to be obstacles to achieving dual climax. You have to accept this and stay motivated nonetheless. It’ll be worth it.

Surrounding conditions. A couple’s surrounding conditions can be a factor in preventing orgasming together. Maybe it’s noisy. Or there’s a weird smell. Get rid of these barriers so you can get back to business.

Set aside time. You need some free time to work on simultaneously climaxing. It takes time and effort. So make a scheduled space for it.

Communication. Talk to your partner and make sure you’re both on the same page. If they’re not that into the idea and aren’t willing to put in the effort, it’s not going to work.. If they are down, talk about what gets you off.