What He’s Thinking When He Can’t Make You Orgasm

We've all had that experience... You're lying in bed. He's on top of you, beside you, standing on his head. Whatever he's doing, you guys are having sex and it just isn't working out for you. The odds of you having an orgasm are.. slim. Hell! The odds of you having an orgasm are nonexistent. So you just roll your eyes back into your head and fake it. But he can tell. Do you ever wonder what he's thinking when he can't make you orgasm? Keep reading to find out!Have you ever faked an orgasm? Let us know in the comments if you have, or if you haven't. We're curious either way.

The perfect guy… When you aren’t orgasming, the ideal partner will be sensitive to what it is that you need. Cosmopolitan refers to him as “a pragmatic version of the Bedroom Diplomat.”

What he’s thinking? No big deal… When you tell this guy you’re not that close, upon being asked, he immediately thinks he wants to do whatever he can to remedy the situation. Change positions, perform oral sex, throw a sex toy into the mix — this guy is down for whatever.

The least ideal… Some men, plain and simple, just don’t understand how sex works. Shoving your penis into a woman’s vagina as quickly and as hard as possible won’t get.. most women on planet Earth off.

What he’s thinking? This guy cares specifically about his needs, so when he finds out that you aren’t nearing orgasm or finds out he can’t get you there, brace yourself for the blame game. Because this is all. your. fault! Well.. in his eyes anyway. "Girls don’t even orgasm anyway… pssshh…"

Fragile. Some people’s ability to get their partner off is deeply tied into their self-worth, so if you’re hooking up with someone who is like that and you can’t climax, you might have a problem on your hands. When this guy can’t make you orgasm, it might affect him, sexually and emotionally.

Cosmopolitan. Frank Kobola of Cosmo refers to this guy as the “There Must Be Something Deeply and Hopelessly Wrong With Me” Guy. Whether it’s his penis or not, this guy is going to take the fact that he can’t make you orgasm pretty hard.

What he’s thinking? “He sees your lack of orgasms as a failure on the part of his penis or his ability to sex you hard or fast enough with it,” says Kobola. "Or maybe something's wrong with his mouth? If you check his search history later in the week, you'll find things like, "how to [perform oral sex]," or, "is the clitoris always in the same spot for every girl?"

The Bedroom Diplomat. Even if you don’t want to orgasm anymore, your wishes pretty much fall on deaf ears with this guy. At all costs he’s going to figure out what it is that will take you over the edge! Even if it takes all night!

What he’s thinking? “Maybe you could switch positions? Change the temperature of humidity of the room? Maybe you should put your socks back on.” says Kobola. This guy will stop at nothing, whether you want him to or not.

Pull out all the stops guy. If you’re not orgasming, this guy thinks, “Well I’ve been holding back, it’s time to really unleash the beast!” Prepare for a good stern boning that.. pretty much won’t change anything. It might just be you and your hand tonight after he leaves…

Marathon man. You don’t even have to say you’re not orgasming, because this guy already knows it. The only issue is he thinks you’re close and if he continues to do what he’s doing he’ll take you there! To the orgasm zone! Only problem is, he won’t.

New study. According to research published in the Journal of Sex Research, men feel inadequate when they can’t make the women they’re with orgasm. No new news here, but wait, there’s more…

Procedure. Prevention.com reported that researchers examined focus groups of approximately 45 men and women, questioning them about the important of orgasm during intercourse to them. “A guy’s own orgasm was key to him enjoying sex,” Prevention.com reports.

Satisfied. Men did however reveal that a woman’s orgasm is one of “the most sexually satisfying experiences men could have.” Men found it “distressing” when they couldn’t make women climax. Especially if the two were engaged in a relationship.

The researchers speak. Claire Salisbury, MSc, a doctoral candidate in clinical psychology, said, “Men feel they have the physical responsibility to stimulate their female partner to orgasm. If it doesn’t happen, then men may begin to question their sexual prowess."